Help, Part 2

I was supposed to have a wedding craft day last weekend. Myself, my sister, Mum and a few friends were all congregating at Shan's place to eat cupcakes, drink champagne and get a start on some wedding projects.

First, a couple of the girls couldn't come until late in the day. Which was fine, what ever.

Then, Shan had to go interstate for work for the week beforehand, only arriving back the night before. At this point I thought, surely we should cancel. There is no way I could ask someone to open their home to everyone when she has had such a full-on week. But being the lovely girl she is, Shan insisted that we still go ahead.

Then, the afternoon before, my Mum called to say that she had nobody to look after my brothers on the day.

And so I texted the few that were coming and cancelled.

And I felt so relieved.

Then Shan texted me at 8am the next morning "Yay craft day!!" (she apparently hadn't turned on her other phone yet), and I promptly regretted cancelling.

Here is the thing: I have spent so long organising everything and trying not to inconvenience people, that when people actually wanted to help, I didn't see it.

Silly me.

All was not lost, however.

Shan I spent the day either hunched over our two laptops, or in stationery shops. At the end of the day, we (mainly she with her mad design skillz) had produced possibly the cutest invitation I have ever seen (not that I am biased or anything).

Then, our respective lovely boys joined us for drinkies and yummy food. And forced ooh-and-ahh-ing over invitations.

So, main Irish invitationprototype done. Only the evening invitations, RSVP cards, mass booklets, Aussie invitations... argh.

I have read a lot of posts about learning to accept help from others when it comes to the wedding. I always assumed that for me, it would be about me learning to give up control and trusting others. But that isn't it at all. It is about realising that your friends and family WANT to help and you aren't doing a bad thing by letting them.

And now I will step down from my soapbox.