I have two posts to write about people helping when it comes to the wedding. The post I was going to write first has been overridden by something that just happened, so we'll get on to the happy stuff later.
I am generally the person that organises everyone and everything- it is natural to me as the oldest child, and generally I don't mind doing it because at least then I know it is done and done correctly.
We are currently less than 4 months out from the wedding. And suddenly, I want people to deal with their own problems. It is dawning on me now, that despite being organised from the beginning, the reality is that we are holding two continents events on two continents within a 2 week timeframe. I can be as organised as I like, and that won't change the fact that I am going to be busy constantly until all of this is over. It may run slightly more smoothly than it otherwise would have, but everything still needs happen when it needs to happen.
Where do you draw the line between things people should be able to handle themselves without bothering you unnecessarily, and things you should be helping with because it is your wedding they are there for?
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I totally hear you!
Today was my last day at work - and I was under the pump to get everything sorted - because I fly up to Broome tomorrow for our wedding next Monday.
And I still had a barrage of emails from people asking about transport, hotels, flights, etc -
People - read your invitations, your'e adults - do it yourself!!!
rant over
I think it's a strange balance. Inevitably, you'll likely end up feeling guilty because people are doing things for your wedding but you're too stretched thing to help. A little guilt is okay... you're only one person, you can't handle it all. So pick the things that you believe others should be able to handle without you and let them go. Assuming, of course, the things you choose to delegate to others aren't the most important aspects of your wedding. For our wedding, I chose to handle the bouquets because they were important to me and I decided to let my grandmother take the centerpieces and my mom to take the food because those were the things I cared about less. You just have to have faith in the people you delegate to. It will all get done. And, although this may sound ominous, even if it doesn't all get done, you'll still be married.
Amen to hitting a wall when you just don't have very much to give out anymore. PEOPLE YOU ARE ADULTS THERE IS THIS THING CALLED THE INTERNET FIGURE IT OUT.
get a couple close friends, family and confidantes and give them a list. these should be people you don't have to worry about and they can help you with people you do have to worry about
best of luck!!!
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